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Frustrated? Help From an Unlikely Source
Lately, I’ve been a bit frustrated at the pace of my own dream journey. Even though I know that there’s a direct correlation between the amount of time you invest in pursing your dream and the time it takes to implement your dream it still seemed like I should already have gotten “there”.
I mean there is really so “magic” to claiming your dream. It’s setting goals, developing a strategic plan, a detailed plan, executing the plan and continuously improving your plan through self-awareness, performance metrics and accountability. The majority of coaching programs use this basic structure…
Yet… I expect things to go faster then they do because I wasn’t making time to lift my head up to look at what I was doing. Have you been there? Are you there now? I’m with you friend.
So the other day I decided to look at the facts. I set the analytical side of my mind free to trend data and it was happy!
I found that the correlation between the hours invested in my dream per month decreased with my blog views (i.e. this is one of my performance metrics). The correlation between hours invested, in my dream, and my performance metric was 80%!
But everyone knows that hard work pays off Mary…so what? But do you look at that hard work objectively?
That was the reason for this little exercise – to bring the situation back to the facts. As I explored there were two more key pieces of information; (1) I started a new job in early August and (2) myself and my husband were in the middle of racing season which takes 50% of my time on weekends. And while yes both were choices they are facts none the less. After looking at the facts I was compelled to readjust my expectations. In light of the data – I was happy with the work I put in and surprised that I had gotten anything done!
So before you judge yourself and your progress take a step back and look at the facts. While facts are an unlikely source of comfort they really do ease frustration caused by unrealistic expectations.
How will you use the facts of your own situation to stop being frustrated today?
3 comments
joyfully chic
Such great advice. So often we are harder on ourselves than we should be.
This often has such a negative effect on our thinking that we shoot our selves in the foot. Mary hit the mark. Great reminder.
Mary
Thank you for reading and taking the time to reply! So truth “we are harder on ourselves than we should be”. May your week be filled with grace !