The lyrics from this song “People are strange when you’re a stranger” is so true.
Along your dream journey you will come across difficult people. Maybe they’re passive aggressive, and argumentative or maybe they just bug you. This blog isn’t about those who endanger your life or abuse you. If that is the case, talk to a pastor, dear friend, or call the authorities.
That’s where I’m at right now. There is someone in my life that just gets under my skin. They don’t do anything wrong, per se, it’s just who they are. Their personality and mine clash. It bugs me that they bug me so much!! I was praying through this this morning and God showed me a few things that I can do about difficult people like this and I want to share.
Handle them with compassion – You don’t know what they are going through or how other people treat them. You are called to have compassion on them.
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” – Colossians 3:12
Accept them as they are – Swallow your pride when you think that they should change to better suit your needs. Be honest that you’ve thought the same thing before. If they did this or that then they wouldn’t bug you. Stop trying to control them. Stop trying to change them. After all, they are handcrafted by God too.
“…you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;” – Psalms 139:13-14
Let them have the spotlight – Much of what bugs me about this person is that they always want the spotlight to be that guy or gal. God told me to let them and that He will honor me and I need not worry about it.
“whoever serves me must follow me; and where I am my servant will also be. My father will honor the one who serves me.” – John 12:26
Focus on their gifts – Like you, they are a child of God with gifts, knowledge, and abilities. Maybe you don’t need what they have to offer but someone else does. What are they good at? What do they do well that you don’t?
“We all have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.” – Romans 12:6
You don’t have to be BFFs with them, but appreciate them for who they are – even if they aren’t the way you want them to be.
My prayer for you today is that if there is someone difficult in your life that you are able to see them through God’s eyes. I pray that they don’t get under your skin so much. I pray this in Jesus name, amen.